Comments for CrazyUS.com http://www.crazyus.com eighty-eight eighty-eight eighty-eight Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:15:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Topics Chosen by Others: Talking to Your Kids about S-E-X by Leanne Kemmler Palmerston http://www.crazyus.com/2012/02/03/topics-chosen-by-others-talking-to-your-kids-about-s-e-x/comment-page-1/#comment-3721 Leanne Kemmler Palmerston Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:15:24 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2762#comment-3721 Having a mother who is a doula means my boys know rather a lot about men and women's fertility cycles. For instance, they know what "moon time" is and what it signifies (namely that a woman isn't pregnant) that babies grow inside a uterus and are birthed out of a vagina (Kieran, at 4, watched his brother be born from the foot of my bed), and they are starting to understand the rudiments of sex. Well, Kieran is. Spencer is only 4 so he isn't the least bit curious yet. Kieran recently surprised me by letting me know that he knew what SEX stood for. He said that it stood for "sperm exchange". He said he came up with it all by himself and I had to admit that I thought it was rather clever. I don't find these conversations embarrassing or difficult. What's hardest for me is to reign myself in and just answer the question asked; not give more information than the kids are looking for. Maybe it's my job and the fact that we discuss things about pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding with such casualness almost every day. What I'm dreading is having to explain strippers and porn. Ugh. Having a mother who is a doula means my boys know rather a lot about men and women’s fertility cycles. For instance, they know what “moon time” is and what it signifies (namely that a woman isn’t pregnant) that babies grow inside a uterus and are birthed out of a vagina (Kieran, at 4, watched his brother be born from the foot of my bed), and they are starting to understand the rudiments of sex. Well, Kieran is. Spencer is only 4 so he isn’t the least bit curious yet.

Kieran recently surprised me by letting me know that he knew what SEX stood for. He said that it stood for “sperm exchange”. He said he came up with it all by himself and I had to admit that I thought it was rather clever.

I don’t find these conversations embarrassing or difficult. What’s hardest for me is to reign myself in and just answer the question asked; not give more information than the kids are looking for. Maybe it’s my job and the fact that we discuss things about pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding with such casualness almost every day.

What I’m dreading is having to explain strippers and porn. Ugh.

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]]> Comment on Thinking your child is going to die and what that does to your head by Ninotchka http://www.crazyus.com/2012/02/01/thinking-your-child-is-going-to-die-and-what-that-does-to-your-head/comment-page-1/#comment-3708 Ninotchka Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:23:15 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2740#comment-3708 Love you, Beth. I'm glad you're writing this all down and sharing it with the world. Just think of that ONE mother at her wits' end Googling Steven-Johnsons Syndrome. I hope she finds you. xo Love you, Beth. I’m glad you’re writing this all down and sharing it with the world. Just think of that ONE mother at her wits’ end Googling Steven-Johnsons Syndrome. I hope she finds you. xo

]]> Comment on Thinking your child is going to die and what that does to your head by Sara http://www.crazyus.com/2012/02/01/thinking-your-child-is-going-to-die-and-what-that-does-to-your-head/comment-page-1/#comment-3695 Sara Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:12:12 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2740#comment-3695 I too read your account from the weird alternate reality of social media. I have no grasp of that depth of suffering. I hope the physical and emotional wounds continue to heal. Thank you for sharing. I too read your account from the weird alternate reality of social media. I have no grasp of that depth of suffering. I hope the physical and emotional wounds continue to heal. Thank you for sharing.

]]> Comment on Thinking your child is going to die and what that does to your head by Beth http://www.crazyus.com/2012/02/01/thinking-your-child-is-going-to-die-and-what-that-does-to-your-head/comment-page-1/#comment-3694 Beth Thu, 02 Feb 2012 01:04:13 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2740#comment-3694 Thank you, Brenda! You always had our back. You knew when to step in and to step back. I love you! Eli is is such a rock star! Thank you, Brenda! You always had our back. You knew when to step in and to step back. I love you! Eli is is such a rock star!

]]> Comment on Alligators in my Dreams and Divorce by Beth http://www.crazyus.com/2012/01/25/alligators-in-my-dreams-and-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3693 Beth Thu, 02 Feb 2012 01:03:20 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2539#comment-3693 Andrea, <a href="http://www.sweetney.com" title="sweetney" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Sweetney</a> (Tracey) has the biggest heart. She is a talent and such a sensitive and skilled writer. I would be delighted if you found me recently through her and I am grateful you found me through Heather (<a href="http://www.dooce.com" title="Dooce" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">dooce</a>) all those years ago. They are both such talented women. Thank you for liking my blog voice and thank you for finding it relatable. It means a lot to me. I understand the need to filter and to protect loved ones. That is one reason I unplugged. My boys were in such vulnerable places and I wanted to be with them and watch them grow. You are not late to the game. You never know how life will turn out. It ebbs. It flows and even when I blunder I try to get over it and point my feet forward again. All the best to you and your new family! I hope you keep reading! :) Andrea, Sweetney (Tracey) has the biggest heart. She is a talent and such a sensitive and skilled writer. I would be delighted if you found me recently through her and I am grateful you found me through Heather (dooce) all those years ago. They are both such talented women.

Thank you for liking my blog voice and thank you for finding it relatable. It means a lot to me. I understand the need to filter and to protect loved ones. That is one reason I unplugged. My boys were in such vulnerable places and I wanted to be with them and watch them grow.

You are not late to the game. You never know how life will turn out. It ebbs. It flows and even when I blunder I try to get over it and point my feet forward again. All the best to you and your new family! I hope you keep reading! :)

]]> Comment on Thinking your child is going to die and what that does to your head by brenda http://www.crazyus.com/2012/02/01/thinking-your-child-is-going-to-die-and-what-that-does-to-your-head/comment-page-1/#comment-3692 brenda Thu, 02 Feb 2012 00:28:13 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2740#comment-3692 Once again, a weepy WOW! As I think how difficult it is for me to process all this from afar, I am as always so very impressed with you and how you kept fighting for your boys. Thanks for sharing more of Eli's perspective. He truly is a rock star. Once again, a weepy WOW! As I think how difficult it is for me to process all this from afar, I am as always so very impressed with you and how you kept fighting for your boys.

Thanks for sharing more of Eli’s perspective. He truly is a rock star.

]]> Comment on Alligators in my Dreams and Divorce by Andrea http://www.crazyus.com/2012/01/25/alligators-in-my-dreams-and-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3687 Andrea Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:23:50 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2539#comment-3687 Beth, I had to come out of lurking with this post as I am finaly getting a chance to catch up with crazyus. I read your blog back in the beginning and ironically found you all those years ago through dooce too. Back then I was a single communications student, writing my own blog and soaking in the blogging world around me. I was happy when I read that you had returned (can't remember how....maybe on sweetney.com?) because I had missed your blog voice. It is true and relatable. I miss blogging regularly but I can't seem to find my voice these days now that I feel the need to filter my words because they affect more then just me (I am now a wife and a mother). But I find joy in reading your words again, in reading you share your story, one that I had truly kept wondering about and hoping you were ok. Admittedly I wondered how your connection to Heather was these days, all these years later. And here I found my explanation without even having to ask. I know I'm a little late to the game with this, but thanks for coming back. Thanks for writing about the tough topics and thanks for sharing that much missed voice. Beth, I had to come out of lurking with this post as I am finaly getting a chance to catch up with crazyus. I read your blog back in the beginning and ironically found you all those years ago through dooce too. Back then I was a single communications student, writing my own blog and soaking in the blogging world around me. I was happy when I read that you had returned (can’t remember how….maybe on sweetney.com?) because I had missed your blog voice. It is true and relatable. I miss blogging regularly but I can’t seem to find my voice these days now that I feel the need to filter my words because they affect more then just me (I am now a wife and a mother). But I find joy in reading your words again, in reading you share your story, one that I had truly kept wondering about and hoping you were ok.

Admittedly I wondered how your connection to Heather was these days, all these years later. And here I found my explanation without even having to ask. I know I’m a little late to the game with this, but thanks for coming back. Thanks for writing about the tough topics and thanks for sharing that much missed voice.

]]> Comment on Thinking your child is going to die and what that does to your head by Beth http://www.crazyus.com/2012/02/01/thinking-your-child-is-going-to-die-and-what-that-does-to-your-head/comment-page-1/#comment-3686 Beth Wed, 01 Feb 2012 18:30:54 +0000 http://www.crazyus.com/?p=2740#comment-3686 Dawn, I know you can relate and I am grateful you took time to comment. I know you are getting through each day. I know it is so hard. You keep holding you head high and I am blown away that you do. I cannot imagine what you are going through either. You are lovely, strong, gracious and you make this world so much better. Thank you! Dawn, I know you can relate and I am grateful you took time to comment. I know you are getting through each day. I know it is so hard. You keep holding you head high and I am blown away that you do. I cannot imagine what you are going through either. You are lovely, strong, gracious and you make this world so much better. Thank you!

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